ARE YOU A MAN WHO ALLOWS LUST TO BE USED AGAINST YOU?
Growing up in New York City from the moment I took my first breath and having lived my formative years there, I had a front-row seat to the games people play in relationships. I’ve seen men and women alike use love, or at least the illusion of it, as a tool for manipulation. Some men chase power, status, or validation, while certain women treat relationships as a means to an end—whether for financial gain, attention, or temporary pleasure. In today’s world, where instant gratification rules, these dynamics have only intensified, leaving many men entangled with women who have no real interest in building something meaningful.
As a man, I can only speak from a man's perspective, and in my experience, there are certain types of women who embody low vibrational energy. These women have no real goals, no solid character, and no ambition beyond what they can extract from others. Instead of focusing on personal growth or stability, they float through life seeking momentary thrills, hopping from man to man in search of entertainment, luxury, or validation. To them, life is a game, and the men they involve themselves with are just pieces on the board. The unfortunate part is that many men don’t recognize the game until they’ve already lost.
These women are skilled at presenting themselves as desirable, using their looks, charm, and seductive energy to lure men in. They dress in ways that maximize attention, speak in ways that suggest interest, and behave in ways that make a man feel special—until the moment they no longer benefit from the interaction. For some, it's about free meals and expensive gifts. For others, it's about the temporary thrill of being desired. But no matter their motivation, the result is the same: they offer nothing of true value while draining the time, energy, and resources of the men they attract.
This isn't to say that all women fall into this category, but the ones who do leave behind a trail of frustrated, disillusioned men who thought they were building something real. Many men fall for the illusion, blinded by lust or the hope that they can turn a superficial connection into something deeper. But as the old saying goes, you can’t turn a whore into a housewife. If a woman’s foundation is built on deception, self-indulgence, and surface-level attraction, no amount of effort will turn her into a loyal, committed partner. Recognizing these women before getting emotionally invested is key to avoiding unnecessary heartbreak and wasted time.
In this monologue, I want to break down the various types of low vibrational women and the specific tactics they use to manipulate men. Understanding their game is the first step in avoiding their trap. By the end of this presentation, you'll not only see the warning signs but also develop a sharper awareness of what real value in a relationship looks like. Let’s dive into the different types of women who play this game and how they operate.
The Trap of Chasing Without Thinking
Many men fall into the cycle of chasing women based purely on lust, never stopping to assess what these women truly bring to the table. It’s not about attacking all women—there are plenty of good, high-value women out there. This is about a specific type: the flashy, manipulative woman who presents a glamorous, exciting image but ultimately has nothing of real value to offer.
If you don’t conquer lust, you’ll always be controlled. The ability to look beyond appearances and into a woman’s true character is what separates men who thrive from men who get used and discarded.
The Shape-Shifting Social Media Phantom
Some women are masters at crafting illusions, and in today’s digital world, their deception is even harder to detect. These are the women who relocate from one city to another, presenting themselves as wholesome, sweet, and innocent—appearing to be the perfect wife material. A good man, unaware of her past, believes he’s found a rare gem, not realizing that in her previous city, she left behind a trail of men who fell for the same act. She has a history, but it’s not searchable. Social media has made it more challenging for these women to stay hidden, but the clever ones create multiple accounts, each with a different personality. On one page, she’s a devout woman of faith, while on another, she’s a party girl living recklessly. By the time a man figures it out, he’s already invested emotionally, financially, and mentally.
These women operate like social chameleons, adapting their personalities to fit the desires of their latest target. They may present themselves as sophisticated intellectuals, down-to-earth homebodies, or ambitious career women. However, their ultimate goal remains the same: to extract resources, attention, and validation. They make sure their past is untraceable, deleting incriminating posts and carefully curating their image. When confronted about inconsistencies, they gaslight their partner, making him question his own judgment. The only way to truly know who she is? Pay attention to her patterns, not just her words. A woman who constantly reinvents herself with no traceable past is hiding something.
The Love-Bombing Opportunist
She appears out of nowhere and falls head over heels in love with you overnight. She showers you with affection, cooks for you, cleans for you, and presents herself as the woman of your dreams. Everything happens too fast—too perfect to be real. Before you know it, she’s in your home, treating it like her own, making herself indispensable. But your gut tells you something is off. Why is she so eager to prove her worth? Why does she seem desperate for a deeper commitment before you’ve truly gotten to know her? The answer is simple: she’s securing her position.
This woman moves quickly because she has a hidden agenda. She may be looking for a place to stay, a financial safety net, or a man who will take care of her while she claims to be between jobs. She strategically uses intimacy and emotional connection to lower your defenses, making you feel like you’ve found someone special. But once she’s settled in, the cracks start to show. Her story doesn’t add up, her actions become inconsistent, and you realize she’s more interested in stability than in you as a person. When you begin to see through the facade, she either guilt-trips you into keeping her around or abruptly moves on to the next unsuspecting man.
The High-Morals Pretender
This woman presents herself as someone with high moral standards, acting as if she’s selective about who she gives herself to. She talks about self-respect, waiting for the right person, and valuing meaningful connections. But then, with you, she ‘makes an exception.’ She tells you that she never does this, that you’re different, and that she feels a special connection with you. In reality, this is just a well-rehearsed performance—one she has played out with countless men before you. She knows that making you feel special will make you drop your guard, leading you to believe that her sudden intimacy is a sign of something real.
This is a psychological tactic meant to manipulate a man’s ego. By framing herself as highly desirable but selective, she makes you believe you’ve won a rare prize. In truth, she’s just recycling an old act, playing into the fantasy of exclusivity while running the same game she’s always run. The moment you step back and evaluate the situation objectively, you’ll see the inconsistencies. If she truly valued her morals, she wouldn’t be so quick to bend them under the right conditions. This woman isn’t high-value—she’s just highly skilled at deception.
The Religious Façade
This woman hides behind the veil of religion, using faith as a way to attract a good man. She is always in church, always quoting scriptures, and always presenting herself as virtuous. But behind closed doors, the story is entirely different. The moment she senses an opportunity, she lets go of her supposed morals, indulging in intimacy while claiming that ‘God brought you together.’ She rushes the connection under the guise of divine intervention, making it seem like waiting is unnecessary.
In reality, church is simply a hunting ground for her. She knows good men are drawn to women of faith, so she plays the role convincingly. She studies the way godly women speak, the way they dress, and the way they carry themselves. But once she has her claws in you, the transformation is immediate. If you were to dig deeper, you’d find that she’s living a double life—using religion as a tool to get what she wants. The key to spotting this deception? Look at her consistency. A truly spiritual woman will live by her values, not just use them as bait.
The Damsel in Distress
She plays the helpless woman in need of rescue. She tells a sob story that tugs at your heart—maybe she was mistreated, maybe she lost everything, maybe she just needs a chance. You feel compelled to help her because you’re a good man, and she makes you believe that by saving her, you’ll gain a loving, devoted partner. She plays her role perfectly—appearing submissive, grateful, and eager to please. But the moment she gets back on her feet, she’s gone.
These women use men as stepping stones, moving from one ‘savior’ to the next, always looking for a better opportunity. They’re not interested in building with you—they’re interested in using you as a temporary landing spot. They might stay for months or even years, but they are never truly invested. Their loyalty is conditional, and when a better option comes along, they will leave without hesitation. The warning signs? She has a history of being ‘down on her luck’ yet always manages to bounce back—off the back of another man. Pay attention to the pattern, because if she’s constantly in distress, she’s not looking for a home—she’s looking for a layover.
These are just a few types of low-vibrational women who use lust, deception, and manipulation to trap good men. The key to avoiding these pitfalls is awareness—recognizing the signs before becoming too emotionally invested. A woman’s true character isn’t revealed in her words, but in her patterns and actions. If something feels off, trust your intuition. A real connection isn’t rushed, doesn’t come with hidden motives, and certainly isn’t based on illusion. Stay sharp, and don’t let yourself become another casualty in the game they play.
Why Some Women Want You to Chase Them
The more desperate you are to pursue them, the less they have to prove. A woman who knows she has real value doesn’t need to play these games. But these women thrive on attention and manipulation. They create a false sense of scarcity, making you feel like you need to work harder for them, even when they bring nothing to the table.
This distraction tactic takes the focus off their shortcomings. They know they don’t offer much in terms of support, partnership, or substance, so they make the chase the main event.
What Do They Really Offer?
Take a moment to ask yourself: what is she really contributing to your life? Often, these women rely on their looks, attitude, and sexual appeal, but beyond that, they bring:
Entitlement – Expecting you to provide without giving anything in return.
Narcissism – Using you for validation while seeing you as replaceable.
Manipulation – Playing emotional games to keep you chasing.
No real partnership skills – They can’t cook, clean, or support you in any meaningful way.
A short expiration date – Once the excitement fades, there’s nothing left.
The High-Value Woman vs. The Illusion
A good woman doesn’t rely on deception to attract a man. She doesn’t need to dangle a false image or make you chase her endlessly. Instead, she adds value by:
Being feminine, kind, and supportive
Offering emotional stability and maturity
Building with you, not just taking from you
Having actual skills, goals, and character
If a woman isn’t showing these qualities, ask yourself: why am I wasting my time?
The Power of Conquering Lust
When you let lust control you, you become a puppet to someone else’s game. If you master self-control, you gain the ability to:
Spot manipulation early and avoid time-wasters
Invest in relationships that actually benefit you
Maintain power over your emotions and choices
Attract women who genuinely respect you
Conclusion: Choose Substance Over Flash
There is nothing wrong with desire, but when it blinds you to reality, it becomes a weakness. Stop falling for women who only want to use your lust to control you. Take the time to find a woman of real value—one who enriches your life instead of just draining it.
The chase is only worth it when the prize is real.
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Sincerely,
Your Battle Tested Brother,
LanceScurv
Lance@LanceScurv.com
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