DR. UMAR: WHY ARE MORE BLACK WOMEN LIKE SERENA OPEN TO LOVE FROM MEN OUTSIDE OF THEIR RACE?
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Serena Williams, one of the greatest athletes in history, is no stranger to controversy—on or off the tennis court. But the most polarizing discussion surrounding her isn't about her 23 Grand Slam titles, her dominance in a white-dominated sport, or her relentless pursuit of excellence. It’s about who she chose to marry: a white man, Alexis Ohanian.
The backlash from certain circles of the Black community, particularly from Black men, is deafening. She’s been called a sellout, a bedwench, a traitor to Black love. But let’s be brutally honest—Black women like Serena Williams don’t end up with white men out of self-hate or social climbing. They go where they are valued, cherished, and desired. And that is a direct indictment of how Black men have failed Black women.
The Black Beauty Standard: Why Serena Was Never "The Prize" in the Black Community
Before we even discuss interracial dating, we have to face the unspoken truth about Black beauty standards: dark-skinned Black women, especially those with African features, are rarely upheld as desirable within the Black community.
Serena Williams, despite being an athletic powerhouse and a multimillionaire, has always been considered "too dark," "too muscular," and "too masculine" by mainstream Black beauty standards. Since childhood, the message has been loud and clear—Black men prefer light-skinned, mixed-race, or ambiguous-looking women.
Think about it:
How often do we see women with Serena’s complexion and natural hair texture starring in Black music videos?
How many of the wealthiest Black men—athletes, entertainers, executives—are married to women who look like Serena?
Why are even pro-Black male figures, from Muhammad Ali to Kendrick Lamar, choosing women who are lighter and closer to whiteness?
Black men have created a reality where Black women who look like Serena Williams are ignored, ridiculed, and treated as undesirable, only to turn around and attack them when they find love outside of the race.
The "Go Where You’re Wanted" Mentality: Why Some Black Women Choose White Men
At the core of this issue is something primal. Women need to feel wanted, adored, and cherished. If Black men, both in mainstream media and real life, consistently send the message that dark-skinned Black women aren’t desirable, what do you expect them to do?
Imagine being one of the most accomplished women in the world, yet still being overlooked by Black men who should, in theory, be honored to have you. Serena dated Black men—Common, Drake—but let’s be real, were they ever serious about marrying her?
Drake? That man collects women like sneakers. If Serena were not "Serena the Tennis Champion" but just a regular dark-skinned Black woman, would Drake have given her the time of day? Hell no.
So when Alexis Ohanian—a wealthy, accomplished, and powerful man—came into the picture, saw her beauty, and treated her like a goddess, she did what any woman in her position would do: she secured her happiness.
And the irony? Alexis Ohanian’s love for Serena is genuine. He isn’t fetishizing her, he isn’t using her for status—he worships her. He sees her beauty in ways that Black men refused to.
The Hypocrisy of Black Men and Interracial Dating
Here’s where the real hypocrisy comes in. Black men have been dating and marrying non-Black women for decades without consequence. When a Black man gets rich, who does he usually end up with?
Kanye West married Kim Kardashian.
Michael Jordan married a Cuban woman.
Kobe Bryant married Vanessa Bryant.
Ice-T married Coco Austin.
Even Frederick Douglass, one of the greatest Black leaders, married a white woman after his Black wife died.
And nobody says a word. Nobody is calling them sellouts, nobody is attacking them for abandoning Black women.
But the moment a successful Black woman chooses a white man, suddenly it’s a national crisis. The double standard is exhausting.
Serena Williams’ Love Life and the Future of Black Women’s Dating Choices
Serena Williams’ marriage is not about race—it’s about a Black woman going where she is valued. If Black men truly loved Black women the way they claim, women like Serena wouldn’t have to look elsewhere.
The real question isn’t, “Why did Serena marry a white man?” It’s, “Why did Black men allow one of their most valuable women to feel unloved in her own community?”
And until that question is answered, more Black women will follow in Serena’s footsteps—going where they are cherished, adored, and worshipped.
Because at the end of the day, love is not about race. It’s about respect, admiration, and feeling like a prize in your partner’s eyes.
And Serena? She finally got that.
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Dr. Umar Johnson: The Hustler of Pan-Africanism
For over a decade, Dr. Umar Johnson has positioned himself as the self-proclaimed Prince of Pan-Africanism, rallying Black people around the idea of unity, self-determination, and the need for an independent Black school system. Yet, after more than ten years of fundraising, begging for Cash App and PayPal donations, and stringing along his loyal followers with excuse after excuse, where is this school?
It doesn’t exist—at least not in any functional, operational capacity. What does exist, however, is Umar himself, growing his brand, seeking fame, and basking in the adulation of those who still believe in his dream. But at this point, it is no longer a dream—it is a hustle. Dr. Umar Johnson is prostituting Pan-Africanism, using the movement not to uplift Black people, but to enrich himself.
No School, No Progress—Just Excuses
Year after year, we hear the same song: The school is coming. We just need more donations. We're working behind the scenes. But for over a decade, there have been no students, no faculty, no functional classrooms—only online rants, hotel conference speeches, and a never-ending call for cash.
How does a man raise millions and still not produce a functioning school? Meanwhile, other educators, activists, and entrepreneurs have started charter schools, after-school programs, and homeschooling networks with less money and more tangible results.
At what point do we call it what it is? A scam.
A Prophet or a Pimp?
While Umar parades as a leader in the Pan-Africanist movement, he spends a questionable amount of time engaging in social media beef, attacking Black women for their dating choices, and spewing hyper-masculine, chauvinistic rhetoric that centers himself as the ultimate prize.
His recent comments about Serena Williams' marriage to Reddit co-founder Alexis Ohanian prove this. He ridiculed Serena for choosing a wealthy white man over a so-called "strong Black king," yet what does Umar offer her? Can he provide her with a life of security, stability, and wealth? Can he match the $150 million net worth of her husband?
Of course not.
But in Umar's world, simply being a "real Black man" should have been enough for Serena to leave her billionaire husband and come "to King Kong." That wasn’t a critique—it was sexual posturing disguised as Pan-Africanism.
The Hypocrisy of Black Beauty Standards
Umar frequently attacks Black women for wearing weaves, bleaching their skin, and chasing the white standard of beauty. But who created this standard? Who set the precedent that lighter-skinned women with loose curls are "the prize"?
It wasn’t Black women. It was Black men—especially rich and famous ones.
Hip-hop videos, movies, and mainstream culture constantly push the idea that beauty is light-skinned, mixed-race, and exotic-looking. From P. Diddy to Jay-Z, from athletes to entertainers, who do they choose as wives, girlfriends, and public arm candy? The lightest women possible.
And yet, when dark-skinned Black women—women who look like Serena—try to adjust to these beauty standards by wearing weaves or altering their appearance, they are ridiculed and called out for trying to "look white."
Black men set the standard. Black women simply follow it.
If Black men uplifted and showcased dark-skinned women with natural hair as the standard of beauty, the entire game would change overnight. But instead, people like Umar want to attack the symptom instead of addressing the root cause.
Pan-Africanism Is Not for Sale
True Pan-Africanism is about self-sufficiency, building institutions, and uplifting the people. It is not about cash apps, donation drives, and Instagram live rants. It is not about begging for money while producing nothing.
Umar Johnson has become a caricature—a man who preaches unity while profiting off division. A man who calls himself a leader while failing to lead. A man who has spent over a decade promising a school that has never come.
At what point do we stop calling this a movement and start calling it a hustle?
Umar Johnson is not the Prince of Pan-Africanism. He is the Pimp of Pan-Africanism.
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The Serena Williams Phenomenon: A Reflection of Deeper Issues
The Trainer and the Boxer: A Lesson in Constructive Criticism
In any sport, a good trainer isn’t there to flatter the athlete—they’re there to make them better. They push, correct, and critique because they want the boxer to win. This same concept applies to how we, as Black people, should view constructive criticism. Too often, we perceive correction as an attack rather than a means of improvement.
If a trainer tells a boxer they need to improve their footwork, is that an insult? No, it’s guidance. But in our community, we sometimes resist correction, particularly when it comes to issues of self-worth, media representation, and relationships. This resistance to self-examination is a major obstacle to collective progress.
Understanding the Cause, Not Just the Symptom
In medicine, a doctor doesn’t just treat symptoms—they seek to understand the underlying cause of the disease. The same applies to our social issues. We often focus on the visible problems without addressing their root causes.
Take, for example, the way dark-skinned women like Serena Williams are treated in media and society. The blatant disrespect she has faced isn’t just about her as an individual; it’s a symptom of a larger issue—the devaluation of dark-skinned Black women. But what’s the root cause? If we don’t ask that question, we’ll be stuck in an endless cycle of reacting to symptoms without ever curing the disease.
Serena Williams as a Symbol of the Dark-Skinned Woman’s Struggle
Serena Williams represents more than just athletic excellence—she symbolizes the challenges that dark-skinned Black women face in society. Despite her wealth, success, and dominance in tennis, she has been insulted, ridiculed, and dehumanized.
Why? Because in a world where beauty and value are often measured by proximity to whiteness, a dark-skinned woman excelling disrupts the status quo. The disrespect Serena has endured isn’t just about her—it reflects how society has conditioned people, including Black men, to view dark-skinned women as less desirable, less feminine, and less worthy of praise.
The Preference for Lighter-Skinned Partners in Black Celebrity Culture
One of the clearest indicators of this issue is the dating and marriage patterns of Black male celebrities. Historically, many Black men who attain wealth and status choose lighter-skinned or non-Black women as partners. This trend isn’t coincidental—it reflects deep-seated conditioning about beauty, power, and social acceptance.
If we look at Hollywood, sports, and even politics, the pattern is undeniable. From Denzel Washington to Barack Obama, we rarely see high-profile Black men openly embracing dark-skinned Black women as partners. Even when they do, those relationships don’t receive the same media admiration as interracial or mixed-race pairings.
What message does this send to young Black girls? That their beauty is secondary. That their worth is conditional. That no matter how accomplished they become, they will still be viewed as “less than.”
Black Women’s Worth in the Media: The Role of Public Display
One of the biggest differences between how Black women and white women are treated in media is public display. White women are constantly showcased as desirable, sophisticated, and worthy of admiration. They are placed on magazine covers, celebrated in fashion, and portrayed as symbols of beauty.
Black women, especially dark-skinned Black women, rarely receive the same treatment. Even when they achieve greatness, they are often sidelined, sexualized, or outright ignored.
This lack of public display isn’t accidental—it’s psychological warfare. When people don’t see an image of beauty that looks like them, they internalize inferiority. This is why media representation matters. When a Black man publicly embraces a Black woman, he is making a statement. He is rejecting the idea that Black love is inferior.
The Psychological Impact of Representation
When Black women are continuously overlooked, the damage isn’t just external—it’s psychological. The subconscious message is that they are not valuable, not desirable, not worthy of public admiration.
This is why the fight for proper representation isn’t just about aesthetics—it’s about healing. It’s about undoing centuries of brainwashing that have convinced us that proximity to whiteness determines our worth.
What Must Change?
1. Black men must openly celebrate and uplift Black women. Public displays of admiration matter. When a Black man shows love and respect for a Black woman, it sets a standard.
2. Media must reflect the full spectrum of Black beauty. Magazines, music videos, and movies need to feature dark-skinned Black women in positive, powerful, and desirable roles.
3. We must break the cycle of internalized self-hatred. This means acknowledging the root of the problem, not just reacting to its symptoms. It means unlearning the biases we’ve been conditioned to accept.
The Serena Williams phenomenon is more than just about her—it’s a mirror reflecting how society views Black women. The question is, will we continue to ignore the reflection, or will we finally address the cause of the disease?
