THE INCIDENT THAT SPARKED THE CONVERSATION
Just days ago, I spoke about a situation that shook many people. A foreign man came into Ghana and made it his mission to approach random women in busy public spaces. He wore recording glasses and allegedly filmed his private encounters without their knowledge. The story spread fast. The outrage followed quickly. But as I sat with it longer, I realized the issue runs much deeper than one man’s actions.
Yes, what he did was wrong. Secretly recording women during intimate moments is a violation of trust and dignity. No one should experience that. But the deeper question that kept coming to my mind was this: how did it become so easy?
These women were not forced. They were not threatened. They went willingly. That does not excuse deception, but it forces us to examine the bigger picture. When dozens, maybe even hundreds, of women respond to the same approach from a stranger, we must look at the environment that made it possible.
There were rumors about his health status. I am not here to confirm or deny anything. But if there were any truth to those claims, then the situation becomes even more serious. It would move from immoral behavior into something criminal and dangerous. At that point, global health concerns would enter the conversation.
But beyond health, beyond legality, beyond outrage, I see something else. I see a mindset problem that we refuse to confront honestly.
GLOBAL POWER AND LACK OF RESPECT
One of the hardest truths to accept is that Ghana, and many African nations, are not treated as equal power players on the global stage. When officials call for extradition or justice, there is no guarantee of cooperation. Powerful nations protect their own. That is the reality of global politics.
It hurts to admit that. Ghana is rich in minerals, resources, culture, and human potential. The future is bright. Yet respect in international affairs does not always match that potential. If another powerful country demanded justice, the response might look different.
So what do we do when respect is missing? We stop begging for it. We build leverage. We protect our borders. We enforce our own standards. If cooperation is not given, then consequences must follow in the areas we can control.
We cannot sit helpless and complain. We must flex what we can flex. Even if it does not shake a superpower, it strengthens our own backbone.
THE COLONIAL MINDSET STILL LIVES
Now comes the uncomfortable part. Why were so many women open to this man in the first place?
I am not attacking Ghanaian women. I know many strong, intelligent, beautiful women here. But we cannot ignore a pattern. There is still a deep belief among many that foreign, especially white, means better. That belief did not come from nowhere. It was planted during colonial times and reinforced through religion, media, and global messaging.
When you grow up seeing white images of power, white images of success, white images of Jesus, white images of wealth, it shapes your thinking. Some begin to believe that connection to whiteness equals elevation.
I have heard women openly say they want a white husband because he is seen as a “destiny helper.” That phrase alone shows how deep the mindset runs. It suggests that salvation and progress come from outside, not from within.
This belief makes some vulnerable. A foreign man can arrive with little money, little stability, but because he represents something imagined as superior, doors open quickly.
IDENTITY, SELF-WORTH, AND SELF-RESPECT
We also have to talk about self-image. Skin bleaching. Hair straightening. Cosmetic changes to look less African and more European. These choices do not happen in a vacuum. They reflect a struggle with self-acceptance.
The painful irony is that many foreign men who fetishize Black women are drawn to their natural features. Yet some women feel pressure to erase those same features to gain acceptance.
This confusion shows a lack of rooted identity. When you do not fully value yourself, you are easier to manipulate. Promises of visas, marriage, travel, or “a better life” become powerful bait.
Some may say this conversation is racist. It is not about race. It is about psychology. It is about how systems of dominance shape desire and self-worth.
We must teach our daughters that they are complete without foreign validation. No outsider is coming to save them. No passport equals automatic happiness. Many who chase that dream discover harsh realities later.
ACCOUNTABILITY ON ALL SIDES
The foreign man must be held accountable for deception and violation. There is no debate there. But accountability does not stop with him.
As a society, we must ask why this scenario could repeat in multiple African countries. Why does the same playbook work again and again? Why are we surprised each time?
Religion alone does not protect morality. Public image does not equal private discipline. If we claim to be conservative and family-centered, then our behavior must match that claim.
This is not about shame. It is about awareness. It is about growth. It is about closing doors that should never have been opened so easily.
WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE?
I believe Ghana is rising. I believe Africa is rising. But rising nations must also rise mentally. Economic growth without mental freedom leaves us vulnerable.
We must build global respect through strength, unity, and self-confidence. We must stop romanticizing foreign approval. We must stop thinking white equals right.
Parents must talk to their children honestly. Leaders must act firmly. Women must understand their value beyond fantasy promises.
This situation is a wake-up call. Not just about one man. Not just about one scandal. But about a mindset that still lingers in 2026.
If we truly want dignity, it starts within. No one can violate a people who know their worth.
Much Love and Respect,
SCURV
