STOP BLAMING THE WHITE MAN...

The following was a comment left on the livestream titled “THE RAW REALITIES OF AMERICA” which inspired this topic…

“Well Lance you can't blame the white man for this shit. black people in America don't want to unify in build together. women don't want to be with a black man unless they're rich making it six figures, these young dudes don't want to work they walk around with their pants hanging off their ass showing there under wear walking around looking hopeless , homosexual activities is so bad in the black community that it's spreading AIDS and HIV and herpes from both male and females. Black people don't want to accept accountability and don't want to be responsible for nothing I know I've been all over America” @Keepingitrealhotline

You Can’t Blame the White Man for Everything

There comes a time when we as Black people must look in the mirror and tell the truth. We know the system has not been kind to us. We know racism exists. We know slavery, Jim Crow, redlining, mass incarceration, and a long list of injustices still follow us today. I will never deny that history, nor will I pretend the system is fair. But here’s the hard truth—many of us use that same system as an excuse to avoid responsibility for our own lives.

It is easy to point the finger at the white man. It is easy to say, “The system is against me.” But what happens when we use that as a permanent excuse to remain broken, unaccountable, and reckless? We are not powerless. We know better. We know what it takes to live disciplined lives, but too many of us choose not to. That is not the white man’s fault—that is on us.

I am sick and tired of seeing my people sabotage themselves and then cry racism as a cover. Yes, the system is corrupt. Yes, reparations are owed. But while we wait on reparations, what do we do with the time we have now? Do we throw it away by blaming, complaining, and pointing fingers? Or do we take control of what we can control?

The white man becomes the symbol of the system. But the truth is, when many of us say, “It’s the white man’s fault,” what we really mean is, “I don’t want to accept responsibility for my own actions.” That is the root of the problem.

Today, I’m going to lay out the areas where our people must stop playing the blame game. I will speak boldly because I care. I will speak raw because I am tired of the lies. If we don’t change, the next generation will suffer worse than we did.

Stop Using the White Man as an Excuse

When we say “white man,” we are not talking about an individual person. We are talking about the system that has mistreated us. But here’s the thing: using the system as an excuse for poor choices will never build strong families, strong communities, or strong futures. Excuses are not solutions.

Ten Areas Where We Must Stop Blaming the White Man

1. Dropping Out of School

Too many young brothers and sisters walk away from education. Then later, they complain that the system blocks them from opportunity. Yes, the system has traps, but refusing to learn basic skills is a trap you set for yourself. Education is not just about school—it’s about discipline, focus, and building a future.

2. Irresponsible Parenting

Bringing child after child into the world without the means to provide is not the white man’s fault. That is our fault. Children deserve stability. When we abandon that duty, we cannot hide behind the system.

3. Rejecting Hard Work

Many young men refuse to work unless the job pays six figures right away. Walking around idle, pants sagging, waiting for handouts—that is not oppression, that is laziness. Other communities come to America and work jobs they hate, but they build. Why can’t we?

4. Self-Hate and Division

Instead of unity, we tear each other down. We envy, we fight, we gossip, we betray. The white man does not force us to do this to each other. That is our choice.

5. Destroying Our Health

From drugs to reckless sexual behavior, we ruin our own bodies. HIV, AIDS, and other diseases spread in our community not because of racism but because of our refusal to respect ourselves and live disciplined lives.

6. Broken Relationships

Too many of our women believe a man must already be rich before he is worthy. Too many of our men refuse to take on the role of protector and provider. The breakdown of Black love cannot always be pinned on the white man—it is about choices we make.

7. Selling Poison in Our Communities

Drug dealers destroy the very neighborhoods where their mothers and children live. They justify it by saying the system left them no choice. That is a lie. Other people find legal ways to hustle and grind. Why can’t we?

8. Lack of Unity in Business

Look around—other groups stick together when it comes to money. Indians, Chinese, Arabs—they may not like each other personally, but they understand unity in economics. Meanwhile, we avoid supporting each other’s businesses and wonder why we stay behind.

9. Playing the Victim Card

Some of us wake up every day looking for an excuse to say, “The white man stopped me.” This victim mentality robs us of our power. When you live as a victim, you hand over your control to others.

10. Ignoring the Future

Too many of us live only for today. No savings, no investments, no plans. Then, when we hit rock bottom, we cry about the system. We have to stop this cycle and plan for our children and grandchildren.

Accountability Is Power

When you accept responsibility, you take power back from the system. No matter how corrupt the system is, personal discipline can shield you from some of its traps. Self-control, family unity, financial planning, and moral responsibility are tools the system cannot take from us.

Stop Waiting on Reparations Alone

Yes, reparations are owed. But while we wait, we cannot sit still in irresponsibility. The bills still come. The children still need food. The world still moves forward. We must prepare ourselves whether reparations come tomorrow or never.

Real Unity Requires Work

Unity is not just talk. It is sacrifice, patience, and forgiveness. Other groups succeed in America because they practice economic unity. If we do not learn to do the same, blaming the white man will not change our reality.

We must stop blaming the white man for everything. The system is corrupt, but excuses are deadly. The mirror is where we find the truth.

We cannot drop out of school, refuse to work, have children without stability, spread disease, or sell poison to our own people and then cry about racism. That is not justice—that is self-destruction.

We cannot waste time pointing fingers while other communities build and grow. Our lack of accountability is a chain we place around our own necks.

The white man has played his part in oppressing us. That much is true. But what about the role we play in oppressing ourselves? Until we face that, we will stay stuck.

I say this out of love. Tough love, yes, but love. We are a powerful people. We can rise higher than the system, but only if we stop blaming and start building.