THE ROLE MODELS THAT YOUNG BLACK WOMEN DESPERATELY NEED TODAY...
This world is overflowing with flashy distractions, fake personas, and attention-seeking antics, it’s rare—almost miraculous—to meet someone whose life resonates with substance, vision, and authenticity.
Yesterday morning, I had the privilege of sharing a conversation with a young lady here in Accra, Ghana.
Like me, she went through the necessary interviews and procedures to attain her Ghanaian citizenship.
But it was during our interview that something powerful happened—we connected. Not in a romantic sense, but on a deeper human level rooted in mutual respect, intellectual curiosity, and spiritual alignment.
There was an energy about her that immediately demanded attention—not loud, not attention-hungry, but centered, composed, and quietly powerful. She's not chasing likes or desperate for followers. She’s not bending to trends, nor is she sacrificing her dignity to fit into society’s degrading molds. She’s walking her own path—deliberately, gracefully, and unapologetically. And the more we spoke, the more I realized that her mindset, her values, and her disciplined way of life are exactly what young Black women around the world need to see more of.
She travels the globe, not to show off or escape, but to learn, to grow, and to expose herself to new opportunities. She has started multiple businesses here in Ghana—not flashy enterprises meant to impress, but grounded, viable ventures that reflect her values and long-term goals. She’s planning her life carefully: thinking ahead to motherhood, homeownership, and generational wealth. All of this on a modest income, fueled by discipline and foresight, not excess or extravagance.
She reminds us that a virtuous, grounded woman is not a relic of the past—she’s alive and thriving. She’s not screaming for validation; she is the validation. As we see more young women being groomed by social media to value their appearance over their intellect, to exploit their bodies for attention instead of cultivating their minds and spirits, this young woman stands as a shining counterexample. She is what our daughters, sisters, and nieces need to aspire to be.
In this monologue, I want to highlight the attributes of a good, forward-thinking young Black woman—using my new friend as the living example. These are the traits that uplift our communities, inspire generations, and reflect the true essence of womanhood in an age that’s trying to distort it beyond recognition.
10 Attributes of a Good, Focused Young Black Woman
1. Discipline Over Desire
She prioritizes long-term success over instant gratification. Whether it’s finances, relationships, or lifestyle, she resists the temporary thrills that derail so many others. Her budget may not be huge, but her discipline makes her wealthy in purpose and peace.
2. Purpose-Driven Living
Every step she takes is part of a bigger plan. She doesn’t “wing it” through life or wait to clean up messes after the fact. She maps out her goals, plans for her future children, and makes sure every action today builds a better tomorrow.
3. Self-Respect and Dignity
She doesn’t need to show skin to prove her worth. Her mind, her energy, and her spirit speak louder than any superficial image ever could. She embodies femininity and pride without compromise.
4. Entrepreneurial Spirit
She starts businesses not for clout but for impact. Her ventures are rooted in her values and serve her community. She understands the power of ownership and uses her gifts to create opportunities for others.
5. Global Perspective with Local Roots
Though she travels the world, she never forgets where she came from. Her global experiences enhance her wisdom, but her heart remains grounded in her culture, her people, and her home.
6. Emotional Maturity
She communicates with clarity, listens with intention, and processes emotions without chaos. Her openness in deep conversation is not vulnerability without boundaries—it’s strength with discernment.
7. Modesty in Presentation, Power in Presence
She doesn't compete for attention, yet she commands respect effortlessly. Her modest dress reflects her inner confidence. She knows who she is, and that certainty shines brighter than any provocative post.
8. Mindset Over Materialism
She isn't enslaved to brand names or the need to “flex.” Her wealth is internal—found in her values, her peace of mind, and her vision. She invests in knowledge, travel, and growth, not just possessions.
9. Forward-Thinking Family Planning
She doesn’t fall into the traps of reactive living. She thinks ahead—planning how and when she wants to build her family. Her womb is not a battleground of poor choices but a sacred space for intentional legacy.
10. Positive Online Presence
She uses social media as a tool, not a trap. Her posts promote her businesses, her mindset, and her principles. She refuses to sell her soul for clicks. Her digital footprint reflects her character.
We need to highlight women like this—not just quietly applaud them in private circles, but elevate them publicly as the standard. In a society that’s constantly telling our young Black women to dumb it down, dress it up, and chase external validation, this young lady stands in defiance of the madness. She is the blueprint, the counter-narrative, the role model we should be celebrating.
Too often, we are shown images of degradation and confusion as the standard of womanhood. We are made to believe that loud is strong, and naked is free. But real strength is in silence, and true freedom is in self-control. The young woman I met is not perfect, but she’s striving—and in a world of distractions, striving is everything.
I told her yesterday that I was deeply impressed by how she lives her life—not because it’s flashy, but because it’s focused. She’s not driven by outside noise but by inner peace. She doesn’t have to scream to be heard, because her life speaks.
I want young Black girls across the globe to know: you don’t have to compromise your worth to find your place. You are the place. You carry legacy, beauty, and brilliance within you. And you deserve to build a life that reflects that.
So let this discussion be a tribute—not just to one incredible woman, but to all the women who are doing the internal work, the quiet work, the generational work. Your existence is needed. Your example is sacred. And your story is far more powerful than any trend ever could be.
We see you. We appreciate you. And we thank you for reminding us what true womanhood looks like.
Stay grounded. Stay glorious. Stay you.