Back on September 28, 2018, I found myself on Orange Avenue, right in the heart of Orlando, Florida’s nightclub district. If you know that strip, you know the energy—bright lights, music spilling into the streets, and people from all walks of life crossing paths under the night sky. It was one of those nights when I had my camera in hand, moving through the crowd, capturing the atmosphere and the stories hidden between the beats of the music.
That evening, I ran into my brother Big Spence. Now, Spence wasn’t just someone I bumped into once in a while—he was a solid presence in that area. We worked together at the Lynx Bus company in Orlando together for many years. But he also worked down there as a bouncer in a nightclub on certain nights, and I knew whenever I saw him, a conversation worth recording was about to happen. On that night, we touched on a subject that is as controversial as it is important: tranny stealthing.
For those who may not know, tranny stealthing is when a transgender person, transsexual, or crossdresser hides their true identity and engages in intimate activity with a straight man without telling him beforehand. It’s not just questionable—it’s outright wrong. This isn’t about judging someone’s lifestyle; it’s about the basic principle of honesty and consent. Without full disclosure, there’s deception, and deception always brings danger.
As Big Spence spoke, people streamed past us—clubgoers laughing, couples holding hands, and strangers brushing shoulders. The nightlife was alive, but our conversation cut through the noise. Even though that was in 2018, the truth we spoke about that night hasn’t changed. In fact, it’s even more relevant today.
The reality is this: America is a place where people have the right to live how they choose, and that should always be respected. But when living your truth involves lying to someone else about their truth, the line has been crossed. And once that line is crossed, the risk of violence, assault, or even death becomes very real.
What Is Tranny Stealthing?
Tranny stealthing is more than just a private personal choice—it’s a direct violation of another person’s ability to make an informed decision. If a man believes he’s engaging with a biological woman, but that’s not the case, and this fact is hidden from him, then he’s been robbed of the right to consent with full knowledge. That’s a serious breach of trust.
This isn’t about hate. This isn’t about attacking the trans community. It’s about recognizing that deception in intimate situations has real-world consequences. People react strongly when they find out they’ve been lied to—especially when it concerns something so deeply personal.
Why Honesty Is the Only Way Forward
Honesty is the foundation of any human interaction, but it becomes even more critical when intimacy is involved. Every person has the right to set their boundaries and decide what they are comfortable with. If you take that choice away by hiding a fundamental truth, you’re not giving the other person respect—you’re taking their power away.
When people feel their power has been taken from them, anger and conflict often follow. Sadly, in cases of tranny stealthing, those conflicts sometimes escalate into violence. Many lives could be saved if people simply told the truth from the start.
The Club Scene and Hidden Realities
The nightlife scene is full of energy, mystery, and chance encounters. But it’s also a space where alcohol, dim lighting, and quick connections can mask the truth. The environment itself makes it easier for deception to slip in unnoticed until it’s too late.
That night on Orange Avenue, Spence and I saw the steady flow of people and knew that among them were folks just looking for a good time—and others who might be hiding something. That’s why conversations like ours are so important. They bring awareness to situations that often go unspoken until tragedy strikes.
Your Life, Your Choice—But Don’t Take Away Mine
America has always claimed to be the land of personal freedom. You can live your life however you choose—dress how you want, love who you want, identify how you feel. But that freedom stops when it’s used to mislead someone else. Everyone deserves the same right to choose freely, and that means having all the facts.
This is not about dictating someone else’s identity. It’s about respecting boundaries and understanding that truth is non-negotiable in human relationships.
Looking back at that 2018 video, I’m reminded of how raw and real our conversation was. It wasn’t scripted, it wasn’t polished—it was just two men speaking the truth as we saw it. And the truth hasn’t aged a day. What was wrong then is still wrong now.
We live in a time where information is everywhere, but honesty is still in short supply. We can talk about acceptance, tolerance, and understanding, but none of that matters if deception is part of the equation. Without truth, there can be no trust. Without trust, there can be no peace.
If you’re living as a transgender person or crossdresser, you deserve respect for your identity. But that respect must go both ways. Hiding who you are to get close to someone—especially in intimate ways—puts everyone at risk. It’s not just about safety. It’s about dignity for all involved.
The reality is simple: people can handle more than you think if you just tell them upfront. Some will accept you, some won’t—but at least you’ll know the outcome was based on truth. That’s far better than dealing with the fallout of a lie exposed at the wrong moment.
I encourage you to watch this throwback video, take in the vibe of that Orlando night, and think about how this conversation applies to the world we live in today. Drop your thoughts in the comments, and let’s keep it real. Because in the end, truth is the only thing that will keep us all safe.
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