There comes a time in life when the noise of the world becomes too heavy to carry. Every smile is not genuine, and every embrace does not come from love. Many people hide their frustrations, their insecurities, and their bitterness behind a friendly mask. Yet, that mask cannot cover the energy they release. Too often, we find ourselves pulled into their storm without realizing it.
We live in a world where negativity is not only loud but also quiet, sneaky, and disguised. Some people don’t need to curse you out or shout in your face to poison your spirit. Their silence, their envy, their hidden resentment can weigh on you just as much. The challenge before us is learning how to guard ourselves against both the obvious attacks and the hidden ones.
In our community, we must recognize that our energy is precious. We cannot afford to waste it on babysitting other people’s problems, insecurities, or toxic patterns. That doesn’t mean we turn cold or uncaring—it means we understand the assignment of life. We are here to grow, to manifest the best version of ourselves, and to build something greater for those who come after us.
There is wisdom in stepping away. I once heard an elder say, “The older you get, the more and more you’re going to realize that you’re going to just want to be by yourself.” Those words were not about loneliness. They were about peace. They were about reaching a point in life where your own growth, your own mission, and your own calm matter more than pleasing the crowd.
This is not selfishness—it is survival. If we don’t learn to protect our minds and spirits, we become drained, distracted, and stuck. Today, I want to share ten strong points on how to keep yourself out of the negative energy sphere of others, so that you can remain focused on your God-given purpose and become the best version of yourself.
10 Strong Points to Protect Your Spirit
1. Recognize the Mask
Not everyone who smiles at you wishes you well. Some carry hidden resentment or envy. Pay attention to energy more than words. Trust your spirit when something feels off.
2. Do Not Babysit Insecurities
It is not your duty to heal people who refuse to face their own toxic patterns. Offering help is one thing, but carrying their baggage will destroy your balance.
3. Limit Access to Your Peace
Not everyone deserves access to your private space. Guard your time, your home, and your inner circle carefully. The wrong people can turn your sanctuary into a battlefield.
4. Set Clear Boundaries
Family, friends, or co-workers—no one is above boundaries. Protecting your spirit is not disrespect; it is self-preservation. Boundaries are lines that prevent chaos from crossing into your life.
5. Choose Silence Over Arguments
You don’t need to fight every battle. Walking away is often stronger than responding. Refusing to be dragged into arguments saves your energy for things that truly matter.
6. Surround Yourself with Builders
Keep company with those who inspire, uplift, and challenge you to grow. The energy of builders multiplies your own, while the energy of destroyers drains you dry.
7. Disconnect from Emotional Vampires
There are people who feed on your kindness and leave you empty. Once you notice the pattern, step back. Protect your energy as fiercely as you protect your physical body.
8. Focus on Your Destiny
Your purpose is not to fix everyone else’s life. You are here to walk your own path, develop your gifts, and fulfill your mission. Keep your eyes forward, not sideways.
9. Accept That Distance Is Necessary
You do not owe anyone endless access to your time. Creating distance is sometimes the only way to protect your peace. Distance doesn’t mean hate—it means wisdom.
10. Value Solitude as Power
Time alone is not weakness. It is strength. Solitude sharpens the mind, heals the spirit, and clears the vision. What some call loneliness is often the very soil where greatness grows.
Life will continue to bring us face-to-face with people whose energies are heavy, toxic, or false. But we do not have to carry their weight. We do not have to absorb their storms. Learning to guard our energy is not just about survival—it is about living fully.
In the Black community, we have faced enough external battles to know that internal battles are just as dangerous. Protecting our energy keeps us strong enough to rise above both. We must value our mental, emotional, and spiritual health with the same seriousness that we value food, clothing, and shelter.
We are not here to nurture betrayal. We are not here to pour ourselves out for those who will abandon us once their needs are met. We are here to build, to manifest, and to elevate. This requires discipline, awareness, and courage.
Remember the wisdom shared earlier: the older you get, the more you will desire peace. That peace does not mean isolation from loved ones, but it does mean stepping away from the draining chaos of the world. It means choosing calm, focus, and strength over noise.
If we learn to protect ourselves from the overt and covert energies around us, we will not only survive—we will thrive. Our community will stand stronger, and our individual lives will be filled with more clarity, more growth, and more purpose. Protect your energy, because your future depends on it.
